There's something to be said for Kitchen Table Wisdom - you know, like in the old days when people sat around the kitchen table after a meal and talked about life, the universe and the meaning of it all - as well as the gossip doing the rounds in town...

Well, that's what this place is - a place to share common wisdom, thoughts and feelings about things important and unimportant, that bring us joy, laughter and happiness and that trouble, sadden, confuse and anger us ...

What I write here is what's 'real' for me. It won't always be PC or 'nice'. We're missing out on true connection and chances to grow and change because there's too little authenticity, too little honesty, too much holding back what we really feel and mean.

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Namaste

(the Divine in me, recognises and honours the Divine in you)

Sahila




Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Tilting At Windmills - Someone's Got To Do It... Will You?

To dream the impossible dream
To fight the unbeatable foe
To bear with unbearable sorrow
To run where the brave dare not go
To right the unrightable wrong
To love pure and chaste from afar
To try when your arms are too weary
To reach the unreachable star

This is my quest
To follow that star
No matter how hopeless
No matter how far

To fight for the right
Without question or pause
To be willing to march into Hell
For a heavenly cause

And I know if I'll only be true

To this glorious quest
That my heart will lie peaceful and calm
When I'm laid to my rest

And the world will be better for this

That one man, scorned and covered with scars
Still strove with his last ounce of courage
To reach the unreachable star










Pale Blue Dot - No More Turning Away

Tuesday, November 9, 2010

I Am Woman - Hear Me Roar

Birthing A New Reality - The Merging of Quantum and Meta Physics




I Am Strong, I Am Invincible - Where Are The Men?


2,000+ years of the patriarchy, and where has that gotten us?

Seriously - look around you...

The Dalai Lama and indigenous elders all say women will step up, lead and make the changes that need to happen...

But we women have been fighting for eons to bring compassion and sanity back to life, to our societies, to the planet.   We bring life into the world, we do amazing things nurturing that life into adulthood, despite the challenges we face daily.   More is expected of us as mothers than is expected of fathers.   If something goes "wrong" it's always our "fault"...   And we are tired... 

In native cultures, men understand that it is woman's role to bring life into the world, and their role to protect women and that new life, and the environment that supports all life...

It seems to me that it's time for men to get it - get the  whole "sanctity of life" thing - and step up.   Turn this people-planet killing machine we call civilisation around...   And if you won't do it, move over and let us...





Beware the Righteous Anger of Youth

Here's what some kids in New Mexico think about where education is taking them... 
We adults should be ashamed of ourselves for allowing this to be done to our children...
 
 
 

Sunday, November 7, 2010

First, Do No Harm....


My spiritual practice is based on the tenet: First,  Do No Harm and John Wesley said:
 
"Do all the good you can,
By all the means you can,
In all the ways you can,
In all the places you can,
At all the times you can,
To all the people you can,
As long as ever you can."

~John Wesley (1703 –1791) Church of England cleric & theologian, Methodist movement founder
 

Does education, and education "deform", first "do no harm"?

I have been thinking about that more and more, since I wrote the letter to my child's teacher, principal and school community, withdrawing him from standardised testing and relieving them of any responsibility and liability for his academic achievement.

As the weeks have gone by, and I've processed the 100% positive feedback I have received on the stand I am taking, and I look at my son as we go to school everyday, I wonder - withdrawing him from testing - is that enough?


There are so many ways in which we don't honour our children as free human beings, and it seems to me the worst is yet to come - in some respects we are going back in time to much darker, almost feudal days...


In many ways, I share some of Alfie Kohn's thoughts on education. 

Learning is a lifelong activity – it doesn’t just happen in the time period between 5 – 17 years of age, within the confines of school walls.   I don’t think the purpose of educating for life is to learn academics...  I think the purpose is to turn out a well rounded, balanced, confident, happy, fulfilled individual - physically, intellectually, socially, emotionally, spiritually and to develop all the talents you were born with, not just the intellect, so that you can contribute the best of yourself to your community...

But School = Prison for many kids, something they have to do, that they don’t have a say in...

Do any of us think abut how we would feel if someone came up to us and said:

“For the next 13 years or so, you will do this for five days of the week, whether you like it or not... You don’t get any say in how you spend the day or who you spend it with... 

You will stand when we say so, sit when we say so, talk when we say so, write when we say so, read when we say so, eat when we say so, exercise when we say so, do art (if you're lucky) when we say so... 

You will spend at least five hours of your day in this fashion and you may - if we choose - have up to one hour to be somewhat free and unrestrained - but even then, if you don’t obey us and do exactly as we instruct, in the manner we instruct, you will have that free time rescinded...”

And kids are supposed to believe this is all in their best interests, that the pay-off  (good job, a safe place in society, relationships, happiness, a house - and a mortgage to go with your student debt - and a generous retirement  before slipping into the night-time of death) is worth it and there is something wrong with them if they can’t or won’t conform, or enjoy it, or do their best …

I see the current model as a confining, controlling one of indoctrination into/moulding for the system and it physically hurts me inside (a twisting of the gut) to see my son being changed/restricted every day... 

So, each day I am dithering about his continued participation in formal schooling....

I want freedom for him - freedom for us all... But is that my projection, coming from deep within, my own rejection of, revolt against the dynamic of power and control...   

And am I gambling with his future if I take him out and let him 'educate', ‘unschool’ himself in something like a Sudbury model school, or even at home... (Or am I just preparing him for a different world, one that will come when this system finally collapses, as it surely will?)...

And I wonder, if that is how it is for me, how must it be for teachers who are being forced by their masters to put children through what most of them must know is not real 'education'?   I wonder how they stand there day after day jumping through the hoops a sick society is putting in front of them?

And that is not a criticism - truly... I know that place; I have been in a place where I was asked/expected to do things that I knew intellectually, morally, spiritually were not "for the highest good".   I couldn’t justify it, couldn’t find a good enough reason worth the pay-off and I had to lay it all on the line to stay in personal integrity... 

I am guessing many teachers face that dilemma daily...

My son's teacher is a fine teacher, who is used to mustering and employing all her talents (artistic, dramatic, musical) in the business of teaching her class whether that be in math, language arts, whatever...

But she is being compelled by her principal and the district to teach to the test, in content and form - worksheets, worksheets and more worksheets, formatted exactly as kids will find them on the tests including multiple choice answers with bubbles to fill in...  

It's killing her - the internal conflict and stress is literally making her sick... 

And it's killing me to see my son struggle with boredom in that...

It’s turning him off - now he says “school is boring, math is boring, too much sitting, too much writing, it’s too hard, I don’t get enough time to just read (currently his completely favourite activity), there’s not enough time to eat lunch, recess is too short”...

My son is not unique - this is happening to hundreds of thousands of kids - we are killing their spirit/creativity/curiosity/enthusiasm... I think that's a crime - which is why I do what I do against education deform...

But stopping education deform is not enough;   what was happening in classrooms before education deform wasn’t good either.   

If I know the system is broken and I don’t agree with the values of the system, and the system won't let me change it (but will let others with money change it as they see fit, in ways that I think will harm all children), what do I, as a parent, do?   

What does a teacher do?

I want to know what we as a people do, when the system is so broken it can’t be fixed?  

How do we get our world to a place where we really nurture/educate our children in a holistic way…

Do you do the best you can within the bad system, or create something outside the system?




Saturday, November 6, 2010

Duelling Airlines



Air New Zealand throws down the gauntlet:




Southwest Airlines responds:



I think Air New Zealand won, but then I'm biased...


Homesickness....

New Zealand Pure #1:




New Zealand Pure #2:




and New Zealand not quite so pure!:

 


Kiwis do fly, and have a sense of humour:













Monday, October 25, 2010

The System - Servant or Master?


I feel sad/mad/disappointed/frustrated that so many people forget that a system - any system - only exists because people support/enable/buy into it... You take away your support and participation, and the system crumbles.... 

And yes, that's not as easy as it sounds - there's a lot at stake for most people.   But surely the day comes when one has to make a choice, if one wants to stay in personal integrity?

That's why I do what I do - the system has ceased to be a servant of the people; on the contrary, its our master and we are now its slaves... 

That's inhuman and inhumane and I don't want that kind of future for our children...   Do you?

Depeche Mode had this to say about the Master-Servant relationship:

LYRICS:

It's a lot
It's a lot
Like life

There's a new game
We like to play you see
A game with added reality
You treat me like a dog
Get me down on my knees

We call it master and servant
We call it master and servant

It's a lot like life
This play between the sheets
With you on top and me underneath
Forget all about equality

Let's play master and servant
Let's play master and servant

It's a lot like life
And thats what's appealing
If you despise that throwaway feeling
From disposable fun
Then this is the one

Domination's the name of the game
In bed or in life
They're both just the same
Except in one you're fulfilled
At the end of the day

Let's play master and servant
Let's play master and servant

Let's play master and servant
Come on master and servant
 
 

Friday, October 22, 2010

Standardised Testing - What are we doing to our children and their teachers?

On October 21, 2010, I wrote and sent this to my child's teacher, other staff, the principal and the co-chairs of the parent body at my son's school - Room 9 Community (public) School, in Shoreline, Washington...

Hi there Aruna (and your fellow teachers)...

This is a bit meandering because its hard to tie it up in one or two short paragraphs... I apologise for the length and its convolutedness...

Aruna - I wanted to thank you for the very informative time we spent at parent-teacher conference last week.   I value your insight and feedback about how Connor is doing academically and socially.   I also value your enthusiasm in your work and your obvious dedication towards and love for the children at Room Nine.

There are a couple of things that came up in that conversation that troubled and continue to trouble me, though.

I don't know if you are aware how active I am as an advocate working AGAINST the current wave of education 'reform' sweeping this country.   I have been involved for the past 2.5 years, first within the Seattle Public School District and now more nationally, with other parent, teacher and community groups.   I know a great deal about what’s going on and the issues behind the agenda, as well as the research that disproves much of the agenda’s justifications for this push.

Specifically, I (with thousands of other people around the country) am working against the implementation of more standardised (high stakes) testing, tying teachers' performance evaluations and pay to those test results, dissolving the concept of 'tenure', union busting, and allowing alternate routes to certification, such as Teach for America recruits.

How does this relate to Connor and Room Nine?

On this year's school contract form, I specifically asked that Connor not take part in any standardised tests.   As a parent, my legal right to withdraw him from that testing supercedes the District's attempt to make standardised testing mandatory.

I take this stand for many reasons - all of which I am happy to discuss in person.   One of the main issues for me is that education/learning is not about test-taking.  

Another reason is that many of the tests on the market do not give teachers any data that is useful to differentiate their instruction, and two recent reports have specifically refuted that Value Added Measures (testing) is an accurate reflection of a teacher's effectiveness in class, with error rates as high as 25-35%.   I have these references and am happy to provide them.

The more personal reasons I have for taking this position are these:

I think Connor is a bright, sensitive, curious child, eager to learn.   His kindergarten year at AS#1 was a year of emergent learning through play, with very little formal structure or instruction.

Then, coming to Room 9 for grade one last year, he had a difficult adjustment to make.   He complained often that he had to sit too long, that there was no 'fun' happening and he was afraid to commit what he knew to paper.

He was judged to be "at risk" on the DIBELS ... I thought this was a ridiculous position/label to put on a six year child, not valid given my own philosophy on learning through experience and not valid given the form of his kindergarten year.   I did my best not to buy into the 'hysteria' of that label.

Connor began to read independently two weeks before school finished for the summer (we were offered summer camp but I turned that offer down)...

Over the summer he began to devour books and now he's reading (with comprehension) at the 4th-5th grade level, though his standardised test results do not show this...

Each child has his/her own rhythm... at some point you have to take your hands off the wheel and let them grow at their own pace - and that pace has nothing to do with "norms" or grade level expectations or standardised tests...

So, under the tenets of the current education ‘reform’ agenda, do I credit his teacher (Melissa) with his progress or not - seeing he made all those strides over the summer on his own?   Or should Melissa be penalised because it took Connor until two weeks before the end of school to begin to read and theoretically he had failed to make adequate progress during the year? 

Yes, I credit Melissa for creating the environment where he could absorb all her effort and care and internalise the strategies she was imparting to her class, and carry it inside until it was ready to be processed and utilised...

And no, she ought not to be penalised because a child takes however long he/she takes to reach a developmental and educational milestone.  

The point of all this is that we are operating in a nonsensical paradigm.   Connor is 'performing' only 'averagely' on the computerised standardised tests, but he's reading 2-3 grade levels above expectations for his age, on the individualised tests he does one on one with you, Aruna..

What factors explain this discrepancy, and which results should I believe?   And should I (or the District) hold you, Aruna responsible for Connor's results on an unreliable standardised test?

We are always late for school, and we often miss part of math - surely then, some of the responsibility for Connor's 'performance' should lie with me?   (And no, that is unlikely to change for a number of reasons:
  • Connor still has a sleep deficit to make up, I don’t believe children sleep because they are lazy – they sleep because they are tired, and I won’t wake him to satisfy some factory-model time schedule…
  • I am living in difficult circumstances and I am doing the best I can with what I’ve got…
  • We are living to our own ‘rhythm’ and some things take precedence in our lives.   Education is a synthesis of what happens in and out of the classroom and Connor is learning important lessons in other arenas, so I make a daily judgment call as to what is the first order of the day – sometimes getting to school by 9.10am does not make it to the top of the list or priorities.   I do not say this with disrespect – I am concentrating on living life in a particular manner and there is sometimes a clash between my principles and the currently accepted/imposed ‘norms’).
 I know you are an excellent teacher Aruna, and I trust you with my child’s learning process.   I want you to use all your skill, your years of experience and your dramatic and artistic talent to make learning a wonderful adventure, not a boring chore, for Connor and his peers.   And I expect the character of Room Nine as an alternative school to give you the scope to do that.

But last week, you talked at length about the District looking at the standardised test scores, and holding you accountable for them and judging your effectiveness as a teacher only on the basis of those results.

And you were pushing me to give Connor homework time (which I don’t/won’t do), so his "scores" don’t fall further.

And I have seen for myself that the math work the children are doing in class now comprises more and more worksheets instead of hands-on activities.   And guess what?  The work sheets have multiple choice answers on them, with BUBBLES/CIRCLES to fill in...

And one (misguided) parent helper spent the time I was there a couple of weeks ago, admonishing children to make sure they coloured the bubbles within the lines.  

This is not education, and it certainly is not “alternative” education....

This is teaching to the test, both in content and form...

This is holding children hostage - making them responsible/laying the burden on their shoulders for adult 'success'...

I do not want Connor participating in this fiasco...I will not enable it to go forward...

So, I hereby formally state that I withdraw my son – Connor T. Changebringer-McCoy - from any standardized testing held within the school and I ask that when he would be scheduled to take part in testing, he be given the work/activities he and his classmates would  normally have been doing in that time.

And I hereby release Arunadevi Carr, the principal, the staff and Room Nine Community School from any liability/responsibility for my son’s academic progress.

Please ensure that a copy of this communication is printed off and placed in Connor’s file.

I am happy to talk with you in person about this issue.

Sincerely

Sahila ChangeBringer
Tel: 206 679 1738

and here is a reply I received from one of the teachers at the school...

Sahila,

I have great respect for your position. As the last of the "old guard" from the formerly alternative Room Nine I read your remarks with a bit of sadness. The type of learning e...nvironments you are describing have virtually disappeared from the public educational landscape. Some of this was our own fault--too many kids graduating from alternative schools who could not do math or write an essay. But they often had plenty of other valuable skills.

Personally I drank the John Dewey constructivist and Vigotsky developmental "cool aid", but there is not much room for these approaches anymore. They are difficult to implement and not scalable. I was attracted to the small schools movement because of this belief.

Educational policy is cyclical and perhaps our grandchildren will think all this emphasis on measurement and management was ill-conceived. We are certainly back to the old factory mentality in my humble opinion. Way too much of this is driven by politics obviously.

I believe that if you wanted to really make a difference in children's education you would put two teachers in every challenging classroom in America. Forget about all the rest of the window dressing---bloated professional development, wasted technology investments, misguided building upgrades, policy wonks, state bureaucracies, multi-million dollar testing program, etc. But the educational corporate interests and entrenched special interests do not have any motivation to revamp the system around student-teacher ratios. In Washington State the voters passed an initiative to bring these ratios down (and hire more teachers)..well the legislature ignored this and in fact has now increased class sizes and effectively frozen teacher hiring (or lay offs)

Yes. Teachers will fall into line with the reforms. Most teachers are "wired" to want to get "A's". Many also do not have much real world experience outside of the classroom. We will teach to the tests and scores will go up. Will children be better educated for the changing world? Hmm. I think some disadvantage children, who were previously written off by our culture, might get a chance that they would not have had without reform. So we will skim off more of the best and brightest out of the unwashed masses.

On the subject of reading: you and I are old enough to remember when the idea that kindergarten children needed to learn how to read and write would have been laughable. Some of us in kindergarten knew how to read but only because we wanted to and kept pestering our parents to read to us. Nobody in school expected any sort of reading proficiency in kindergarten. We played a lot and that was OK.

So it goes.

It makes me want to cry - what  we are doing to our children?



Friday, September 24, 2010

No Time To Let the Grass Grow



Well... doesn't time fly when you're having fun?   Are you having fun yet???   I'm not sure I am...

Is it the Irish or the Chinese who have that wonderful curse: "may you live in interesting times!"?

I'm living in interesting times;
  in the past month, I've been busy moving house and going on fall camp with my youngster and 100 K-8 other kids and 30-odd(?) parents.

And we, as a species and a planet, seem to be living in interesting times.   And on many levels it feels like time is running out...

The earth - our mother, who will survive without us but without whom we are doomed - is under constant assault (some would say rape).


And some of our own kind seem intent on raping the rest of us and generations to come, for the power and control that comes with their actions.

 

I've been spending a great deal of time, energy and focus helping fight a rearguard action to save public education from privatisation.   This education 'deform' agenda has been playing itself out for a long time, behind the  scenes.   It appears the final stage of implementation is occurring now - its come out of the closet and is being pushed down the public throat in a propaganda extravaganza this week by the 'bought and paid for' media, including NBC, CBS, Time and Oprah...

NBC's Invitation-Only Education Nation "Summit"

 

 

Some of us started posting comments and criticisms of the Summit on NBC's Education Nation facebook page    

Eduction Nation Facebook

 

Basically we were saying:  "Hey there - you're having a national Summit about education, your panel is stacked with reformers, as are your sponsors, and you've forgotten to ask the two major stakeholders - parents and teachers - to the table.   What gives?

 

No answers to our repeated questions and once we started putting up posts that gave stats and data and suggested well qualified, articulate people who should be on the panel, we (me and some of America's best known anti-reform critics) got booted off.   And so one of us set up an alternative page for like-minded dissenters... 

MisEducation Nation Facebook Page

 

 I dont know if we can win this one...
 

If you ask me, the only way out of this is actual, physical national protest...

 

I hate being the pessimist here... but "Seattle nice" and civil discourse aint gonna cut it in this fight.

 

We can't match the money or the press coverage (unless the NEA/AFT (teachers' unions) get off their arses, work with us & spend some big money - but so far they've been totally inept or they're part of it).

 

The only thing we have - if we can unite and mobilise it - is big names and numbers. The longer we wait, the more people are exposed to the propaganda and believe it...

 

Only physical protest - lots of loud noise - is going to stop this., because the agenda is almost completely implemented - this media blitz is the final push... another six months and its a done deal...

 

I wish I could get people to see this... Everything I've predicted for the past two years has happened, on the timeline I expected, here in Seattle and nationally...

 

The Mayoral loss in DC will not stop it - people seem to think Broad Foundation plant reformist Chancellor Michelle Rhee is gone because Fenty is.   But that's not a given, the public haven't made the connection between Rhee and Eli Broad and the national takeover of the education system/administration.   And, if she goes, Broad/Gates will slip someone else in there - that person might have a different style, but the agenda will be continued...

 

I keep pointing people to the Broad/Gates Lines of Influence maps:

Broad/Gates Foundation Lines of Influence - National Picture

Influence in Seattle

as well as the links on the Broad website showing where superintendents and "fellows" are working across the nation:

Broad Residency Alumni - Where Are They Now?

Broad Residents - Where Are They - Map

Broad Fellows and Superintendents - In a School District Near You

Broad Fellows and Superintendents Around the Country - Map

and to the blog Broad Report:

The Broad Report

There are no important/places/cities/communities that are now untouched... If Broad/Gates haven't reached critical mass yet, they soon will...


We need to challenge that with our own unity and voices...

There are many groups working against this 'deform' agenda - Parents Across America, United 4 Kids, Save Public Schools and dozens of others around the country.   I wish they would all unite under one banner, bring in all the teachers, community members, minority groups...  Only something as big as the anti-Vietnam war protests is going to stop this...

Our problem is we have no time... and our failure to stop this will hurt our kids and will take 20 years to run its course before we get the chance to turn that around...

I truly don't know how to get people to understand this...   One needs to feel it in one's gut - and know and understand history and the forces behind it all...

 





Friday, August 27, 2010

First Things First....

Lots on my mind, lots happening in the world that feels really urgent, time is speeding up, lots to write about... 

Been busy, busy, busy out there, spreading the word and vision about alternative realities and inciting revolt and revolution...

Is that because its my calling, or am I avoiding taking care of my own issues in here?


Physician, heal thyself!   Can't save the world if I'm drowning myself... Gotta get my own house in order first....  

So, I'm Taking the Pledge NOT TO INVOLVE MYSELF WITH PUBLIC EDUCATION OR OTHER SOCIAL JUSTICE ACTIVITIES (except the issuance of media alerts?) until I've finished moving house, gotten my youngster settled into the new school year, caught up with personal admin, planned and marketed some new classes and secured more speaking engagements and 'paid-to-play' projects...

That includes no more activist postings and commentary on other social media, newspapers and blogs (though maybe I will finally write those open letters to Oprah and to Nick Hanauer that've been in my head for about two years now!).

The world will save itself without/in spite of me - yes it will... really!

And I'll be back here in a couple of weeks when the house moving dust settles...

Namaste

(given the exceptions to my own rule that I've already created, how long do you think I'll last???)



Sunday, August 8, 2010

Time to Breathe Again (and Create Your Unlimited Life!)


45-minute teaching session offered each Tuesday, focusing on the practice and benefits of breath work, and uncovering limiting core beliefs and self-sabotaging patterns of thinking, choice-making and behavior.

We'll be discussing what, how and why you think, do and say what you do, what are your expectations of yourself and life and what keeps you from reaching your full potential.


We won't just be sitting around; we'll also use experiential exercises to get to profound, deeply personal understandings.


Here's what other participants have said:


"Breathing with Sahila changed my life. I did breath work with Sahila for several months and after each session, I felt like all the stresses in my life had been offloaded and I could go back into the world with a clear mind. Our sessions together were great. Sahila has a wealth of life knowledge so by talking with her and breathing I was able to shift my thinking about my family, myself and my life path and really become OK with who I AM which allowed me to let others be who they are....it is so freeing! Sahila is an amazing person and anyone who works with her will be better for it." - Michelle


"The 2 hour group breathe with Sahila brought me the understanding and insight of the importance of breathe work. The week following my breathe I felt more energized, more connected to my body, and ...felt like I had undergone a great detox! It has brought awareness of daily breathing to the forefront and I look forward to my next breathe session." - Carrie


"I have done breath work with Sahila years ago in Australia and have learnt so much about staying in the present moment and observing myself doing me. I am only sad that she is overseas and we do not have instant access to this amazing teacher and healer!" - Bronwyn



So, if your life isn't going as well as you'd like and you need new ideas, strategies and tools to change that, come and check out what I have to offer.



Time:      6 - 6.45pm


Location: 5 Focus Fitness,

             1009 8th Avenue North, Seattle, WA 98109

Cost:      $10.00


RSVP:     5 Focus Fitness at 206 631 2818

             Sahila at 206 679 1738
             Sign Up Online Here

For more information on breath work and the other modalities I offer, see my website:
www.metamind-spirit.com

And, consider signing up for the next monthly group breathe:

5Focus Fitness
Monday 23 August 2010
6.45-8.45pm
$50

Limited to 15 participants

Bring yoga mat, blanket, pillow
Refreshments provided



Speak Nicely and Say Nothing?


I've written many times before that the demand for 'civil discourse' misses the point and is more often than not a demand that people with uncomfortable things to say simply "shut up".   See here, from another writer:

" There is an unfortunate tendency to assume that civil discourse has occurred whenever two or more people are nice to each other, say something, and don’t get into an argument. That is misleading on all three counts.

Civil discourse has not occurred if boundaries have not been crossed.

Civil discourse has not occurred if boundaries that define spaces of sound and spaces of silence have not been recognized and honored.

Where there is no argument, there is no civil discourse.

We must openly disagree if we are to discover what binds us together and what we can accomplish. We must talk to each other in order to disagree. We must speak honestly as well as decently, which means that we may sometimes need to say unpleasant things about each other. And about ourselves." 




And You Thought You Were Keeping Your Teeth Healthy & Strong!

 
 
We've all been told that flouridation of our water is the best way to preserve our dental health...

But when you stop and think about it, how could putting any toxic substance into your body be good for you?

Worse still, how could putting such poisons into our babies and children be good for them and their growing brains, bones, organs?

Doesn't make sense.... unless there's something else going on....