I have this thing about teasing, which I guess relates to the sarcasm thing also...
A long time ago, I realised that teasing was about superiority - having 'fun' at someone else's expense, and the object (victim) of the teasing was supposed to be all mature and grown up about it and laugh along with it. If the person didnt respond well, they were told they were 'too sensitive' and to grow a thicker layer of skin...
But, its not about fun or camaraderie, and it doesn't matter how small or apparently insignificant the teasing remark is - at its core, its a power play and a put down...
I like humour that points out the inconsistencies in situations and in life and I like self-deprecating humour - we have the right to make fun of ourselves, we don't have the right to make fun of others...
A long time ago, I realised that teasing was about superiority - having 'fun' at someone else's expense, and the object (victim) of the teasing was supposed to be all mature and grown up about it and laugh along with it. If the person didnt respond well, they were told they were 'too sensitive' and to grow a thicker layer of skin...
But, its not about fun or camaraderie, and it doesn't matter how small or apparently insignificant the teasing remark is - at its core, its a power play and a put down...
I like humour that points out the inconsistencies in situations and in life and I like self-deprecating humour - we have the right to make fun of ourselves, we don't have the right to make fun of others...
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