There's something to be said for Kitchen Table Wisdom - you know, like in the old days when people sat around the kitchen table after a meal and talked about life, the universe and the meaning of it all - as well as the gossip doing the rounds in town...

Well, that's what this place is - a place to share common wisdom, thoughts and feelings about things important and unimportant, that bring us joy, laughter and happiness and that trouble, sadden, confuse and anger us ...

What I write here is what's 'real' for me. It won't always be PC or 'nice'. We're missing out on true connection and chances to grow and change because there's too little authenticity, too little honesty, too much holding back what we really feel and mean.

Welcome to my world...

I used to have a copyright claim here, but I've removed it...

Ideas don't belong to anyone -

they come to those who are receptive and are to be used for the well being of all...

I find images and movies and music all over the web

and I use them to accent/expand on my thoughts and understandings...


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material and emotional/spiritual sustenance in this world...


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If your Reality isn't Working for You, Create a New One!

Life Unlimited!


Namaste

(the Divine in me, recognises and honours the Divine in you)

Sahila




Wednesday, April 25, 2012

The Tail Wagging The Dog...


... another of my pet peeves...


Any company or brand expecting you to pay to wear their logos...

Tell me again - why should I do that?

Ought it not to be the other way around, where you pay me to wear, carry, drive your products - seeing I'm a walking advertisement for you???


It used to bug my children that I wouldn't buy branded, labelled products...

They felt left out, when they compared themselves to their peers...

I did occasionally succumb, but to the smallest degree possible...

When my daughters were in primary school, Benetton and Esprit entered the New Zealand clothing market...

My daughters went to a suburban school that had a high socio-economic population and most of their friends were wearing both brands within a matter of weeks of their launch in the country...

Knowing how much peer pressure around body image and popularity affected young girls especially, I gave both girls socks with the Benetton and Esprit brands woven into the tops...

They were so happy; they felt like they were part of the 'in crowd', normal, equals, accepted...

It was a small thing to do to make life a little easier for daughters who have a mother who doesn't fit the mould...

And I had a hard time giving in to the programming, on even that scale...


And this doesn't even address the issues relating to slave labour being employed in Third World countries to make these products and the unholy profits manufacturers are making on the backs of this exploitation...

My mother worked for most of her life in the clothing industry.  I saw how hard she worked and how little she was paid, even in a western factory.   I know the cost of the materials, of marketing and distribution etc...

Why on earth would I want to pay more to be used as a walking billboard to market a label, which, in itself has no substance in reality, is nothing more than an illusion?





 

Tuesday, April 24, 2012

A Woman's Work...



... is never done, whether she's a single mother or part of a two-parent family, whether she works full time or part-time, or stays at home with her children...
 
 
A man came home from work and found his three children outside, still in their pyjamas, playing in the mud, with empty food boxes and wrappers strewn around garden...
 
The door of his wife's car was open, as was the front door to the house and no sign of the dog...
 
Walking in the door, he found an even bigger mess...
 
A lamp had been knocked over, the throw rug was against one wall...
 
In the front room the TV was on loudly with the cartoon channel, the family room was strewn with toys and various items of clothing...
 
In the kitchen, dishes filled the sink, breakfast food was spilled on the counter, the fridge door was open wide, dog food was spilled on the floor, a broken glass lay under the table, and a small pile of sand was spread by the back door...
 
He quickly headed up the stairs, stepping over toys and more piles of clothes, looking for his wife.  He was worried she might be ill, or that something serious had happened...
 
He was met with a small trickle of water as it made its way out the bathroom door.  As he peered inside he found wet towels, scummy soap and more toys strewn over the floor.   Miles of toilet paper lay in a heap and toothpaste had been smeared over the mirror and walls...
 
As he rushed to the bedroom, he found his wife still curled up in the bed in her pyjamas, reading a novel... 
 
She looked up at him, smiled and asked how his day went...
 
He looked at her bewildered and asked, "What happened here today?"
 
She again smiled and answered, "You know every day when you come home from work and you ask me what in the world do I do all day?"...
 
''Yes," was his incredulous reply..
 
She answered, "Well, today I didn't do it.."
~ found on Facebook today
 
 
 
 
Dedicated to misogynists - especially middle-aged, patriarchal, chauvinistic, conservative, Christian, white males in American politics - who are currently waging war on the women and girls of this country...
 
What is wrong with you all?
 
Weren't you born of woman?
 
Were all of your mothers horrible?
 
Is your womb envy so overwhelming?
 
Why choose to be with a woman
and have children by her
if you don't love, respect and appreciate her?
 
Why would you do anything that perpetuates attitudes that will hurt your daughters?
 
 
 
 

Damned If I Do...


... damned if I don't...

How to get from here...


Right at this moment, I feel we are a mess, as a species...

Daily, in every place I look, I see/hear/feel a harsh, cruel darkness descending on us...

We've been in this place before, I know...

We could be excused for that in the Middle Ages and even up to the beginning of the Industrial Revolution, because it could be argued that we didn't know any better and/also didn't have the technology to do better, for the planet, for our fellow beings on the planet, for our fellow humans...

But that excuse is no longer valid...

So now we are in the midst of a final struggle, where we either commit, finally, to doing what we know is healthy for all life on the planet, or we drag much of life with us into a body and soul-killing blackness, from which we might never emerge...

I want to turn my back on it all and just do the best I can with what I have for me and the boy - AND - at the same time, that feels like collusion, collaboration - being like the Germans who knew what was going on under Hitler and turned their heads and hearts away...

And this time, it's a global issue, occurring on the environmental, economic, political, social, psychological, spiritual levels, all at once...

How to keep holding the space, doing what I can to push back against the blackness, make space for more light to come in, and stay present for the boy, stay sane, clear, tranquil, take care of our physical, emotional, spiritual needs?



... to here:


"The tranquil clarity, which is devoid of mental turmoil, alone is the samadhi which is the firm base for liberation.

By earnestly trying to destroy the deceptive mental turmoil, experience that samadhi as the peaceful consciousness which is inner clarity.

In yoga the term samadhi refers to some kind of trance and there are various kinds of samadhi.

But the samadhi I speak of is different.

It is sahaja samadhi.

From here you have samadhana [steadiness] and you remain calm and composed even while you are active. 

You realize that you are moved by the deeper real Self within.

You have no worries, no anxieties, no cares, for you come to realize that there is nothing belonging to you.

You know that everything is done by something with which you are in conscious union."
~Ramana Maharshi




I obviously haven't reached that state yet!

I get to it sometimes, for several moment, hours, a day even...

AND more often than not, I am so tired and depressed watching this train wreck happening all around me on so many levels, in so many arenas...

I've been thinking along several lines...

One is the concept of non-attachment which I think is related to sahaja samadhi, and I'll write about that in another post...

The other is the realisation that life in this reality IS about movement and change and our own participation, responsibility in that...

AND that I'm not sure anything in our current model can be saved...


Bucky Fuller said you cant fix a broken system - that you have to create something new alongside it... 

And who was it that said that you can't find solutions using the same thought processes that created the problems in the first place?

One idea that's been percolating in my thoughts has been that of using the Dual Power Strategy to move from here to there...

"Dual power is a method of struggle for the revolutionary transformation of society.    It presupposes a pre-existing, fundamentally flawed social order.
 
Within that society, those who envision a different future create alternative institutions (AIs) that embody their vision.
 
AIs are places for experimentation with new social forms as well as places for liberation for those who are oppressed within the larger society.   As AIs spread and diversify, they take on more and more of the functions of a larger social system: creating over time an "alternative social infrastructure" that fulfills economic, political, social, and cultural needs.   In addition to their direct functions, AIs demonstrate the viability of new ways of organizing society, and attract interest to the ideals behind them.

As the ideological monopoly of dominant institutions is broken and people increasingly rely on AIs, those who benefited from existing arrangements may seek to dismantle their upstart competitors.
 
At the same time, those who seek fundamental changes in society or who find the alternative ways of organizing it valuable, may seek to enlarge and strengthen the alternative infrastructure.
 
Counter institutions (XIs) are created both to defend the AIs and to promote their growth. These work to challenge and attack the status quo while creating, defending, and securing space for opposition and alternative institutions.  They do this with everything from political protests, to direct appropriation (of plantations, government buildings, factories, etc.) for the use of alternative institutions, to civil disobedience or armed resistance.
 
The line between AIs and XIs is seldom entirely clear as many alternative institutions are also self-promoting or defending.   Together the AIs and XIs form an alternative source of power in society which is "necessarily autonomous from, and competitive with, the dominant system, seeking to encroach upon the latter's domain, and, eventually, to replace it."

During the process of building the alternative institutions and the ideology that supports them, the advantage of dual power is the creation of real, and not merely political, momentum towards the revolutionary transformation of society.
 
Actual changes are ongoing, rather than postponed to a revolutionary moment, so needs unmet by the pre-existing order are being met during the struggle and no sector of society is told that its concerns can only be dealt with after victory is achieved.  That is, creation of AIs and the political space for them has intrinsic benefits, apart from the advancement of the revolutionary project.
 
Over the course of building AIs, the society at large is empowered, committed to change, and skilled in running society. Simultaneously, the credibility of a revolutionary vision is increased immensely by putting it into practice and by refining and improving it over time.
 
It is also conceivable that factional splits between revolutionaries and reformers (and all the shades in between) could be reduced by having a common project that both find useful. Those forces that would be sent to suppress a revolutionary movement find themselves confronting people who have taken control over their own lives, rather than armed cadre attempting to impose a vision on the country, potentially obviating military conflict or at least reducing its severity.

Successful dual power rebellions end with the acceptance of the new social forms by much of the populace and the realization by the old rulers that they are no longer capable of using their systems of force against the revolutionary movement.  This can occur because non-cooperation has crippled the old structures of power, because too few people remain loyal to the old rulers to enforce their will, or because the rulers themselves undergo an ideological conversion.
 
At this point, there is not general confusion.   The disappearance of old leaders and structures of power is accommodated by the expansion of the alternative system.
 
The alleged "necessity" for a revolutionary vanguard to guide the revolutionary impulse is shown to have no basis: because the people have already learned how to govern their own affairs, they need no tutelage from above.
 
The possibility of co-option is minimized: "When the people recognize their true power, it cannot be taken away by rhetoric or […] imposition."

Dual power is a strategy, rather than an ideology, and it could plausibly be used to advance a variety of forms of social change.
 
However, the advantages of the strategy make it most compatible with perspectives that emphasize the exercise of power at the community level, that seek to make the revolutionary movement accountable to the people, that see the capability to revision and transform society as common rather than rare, and that seek decentralized forms of power.
 
Call this version of the strategy grassroots dual power, the bottom-up transformation and replacement of the mechanisms of society."
~ Wikipedia

I can't see any way of fixing what we are living with/through now...

So...

I want to use my limited energy on building something new using the Dual Power strategy, approaching it, as a friend suggested, with a spirit of generosity, shifting from the place of problems and deficits (or even finding solutions to these problems) to valuing people for the gifts they bring to community...










Skin...





by 2042, Caucasians will be in the minority in the US
and in the world by 2060...


I think that's exciting...

Just as the patriarchy is having to give way to those it dominated,
so the imperialists will have to give way to those they colonised...

The turning of the wheel...

Karma...

I wonder what life will look like...

I wonder what the oligarchs think of this coming change...

They can't stop it happening...

Can they control/fashion it into something they can live with?

Is that what they are attempting to do now,
by attaining and controlling
the majority of wealth, assets and resources globally,
in passing laws that restrict civil and human rights,
and in reforming our health and education systems in ways
that are taking us back to economic,
social and political re-segregation?

What do you think?



Monday, April 23, 2012

Give What You Can...



Dear My-Version-Of-The-Sacred...

IF it's my role at this time in history to keep being a conduit for information a la what I've been doing over the past couple of years...

THEN you need to bring me income and resources so that I can continue to do that AND house, feed, clothe, educate, transport the boy and myself...

That's the Law of the Sacred Circle, isn't it?

So, how about it?




AND...
IF anyone has more than enough for themselves,

AND has the desire to see change happen in the world,

AND doesn't have the time or skills to contribute to that effort,

AND wants to support someone else who IS qualified
and DOES have the time, 

THEN I would be delighted to consider a
no-strings, no-editorial control, patronage arrangement...






Friday, April 20, 2012

New Beginnings...


... Sending this out to the universe...

So - it seems me and the unschooled youngster (almost 9) and two cats will be staying here in the US for a few more years...

So - I'm open to somewhere new to live and work...

In my 'best-of-all-possible-worlds', that would be on Vashon Island or around north/central Seattle...

Preferably in community with like-minded, awake and aware, creative, artistic, musical folk...
 
In an eco-friendly sustainable environment (earth house and/or small farm style - garden, orchard, bees, poultry, goats, horses, pigs, PEACOCKS etc - would be bonus - willing to help make that happen)...
 
In an organic household moving towards a mostly whole food, plant-based diet...

Preferably in the green, near water, with a view of the mountain...

Other children in the household would also be a bonus...


Our preferred alternative would be to rent a "small house"...


or a LONG-TERM house-sitting arrangement...

We are responsible, respectful, calm, clean, friendly, funny, sane, non-judgemental people...

I'm a mature, very left/progressive/anarchic-leaning social justice activist, independent in nature, focusing on supporting Occupy/99% Spring activities, highlighting alternative economies, alternative forms of social organisation and public education issues... 

The boy is loving, kind, mature, bright, a bit shy at first...

The cats are spayed/neutered, indoor-outdoor, house-trained and well-behaved...
 

I have lots of skills to offer/share - see here: 

alternative/healer/shaman/therapist = metamind-spirit ;
 

plus cooking, knitting, housekeeping, childcare etc...

 
We have a complete household of stuff in storage, which I'm happy to share with others...

We'll contribute to household costs and food...
 


I'm also welcoming work/new clients - in person or remote via the internet...

If anyone has any leads, please message me...

Thank you...

Namaste...

Sahila

Thursday, April 12, 2012

Counting To 12...



Now we will count to twelve
and we will all keep still.

For once on the face of the earth,
let's not speak in any language;
let's stop for one second,
and not move our arms so much.

It would be an exotic moment
without rush, without engines;
we would all be together
in a sudden strangeness.

Fisherman in the cold sea
would not harm whales
and the man gathering salt
would look at his hurt hands.

Those who prepare green wars,
wars with gas, wars with fire,
victories with no survivors,
would put on clean clothes
and walk about with their brothers
in the shade, doing nothing.

What I want should not be confused
with total inactivity.
Life is what it is about;
I want no truck with death.

If we were not so single-minded
about keeping our lives moving,
and for once could do nothing,
perhaps a huge silence
might interrupt this sadness
of never understanding ourselves
and of threatening ourselves with death.
Perhaps the earth can teach us
as when everything seems dead
and later proves to be alive.

Now I'll count up to twelve
and you keep quiet and I will go.

~ "Keeping Quiet" by Pablo Neruda
 
 

This Is Now...


"It takes courage to heal.

It takes courage to speak on behalf of the whole, to be a voice, a full expression for the Earth and for its diverse species, for all human life, for a consciousness that knows that peace is our inheritance and that our responsibility is to reveal our interdependence.

It takes courage for science and spirituality to dialogue and illuminate new possibilities for humankind.

It takes courage to reach towards the manifestation of a vision that transforms enemies into allies and disillusionment into hope.

But you were born for such a time as this."
~ James O'Dea

...another beautiful spring day here on Vashon Island...

amazing how exposure to sunlight over two consecutive days can alter my mood - for the better!

oh, and remembering that other people's moods and issues are not necessarily anything to do with/about me - they MIGHT be, but chances are they're not...

and reminding myself just to stay in this very moment, in the NOW, where everything is OK...

"When you go home to the present moment, you touch the wonders of life that are inside you and around you.

Just enjoy this moment; you don't have to wait for tomorrow to have peace and joy."
~ Thich Nhat Hanh


and reminding myself that I'm powerful and strong and can/will deal with whatever the next step is...


and that it's up to me, how this story ends and how I experience that ending...

and at the same time, while...




... I am not alone in this...




... it's all in the perspective ...



That Was Then...


...having a blah day...

there's tension in the house where we're staying... too many people, not enough space, no privacy, teenage boy stuff going on, family struggling with change also...

And...

waiting for court decision...

And...

no idea how to fund the next step away from here, whether it's to stay in the US or go back to Oz...

And...

boring female issues - am in tail end of peri-menopause, body's trying to menstruate and feel like crap, with backache from sleeping on couch too long, and sore, stiff joints from drinking too much coffee, eating too late each evening and sitting around too much...

And...

finding this change time in the external world hard to take - really weird feeling we're living in revolutionary times and knowing that things will get much worse before they get better... feel sad and mad and frustrated all at the same time...

And...

feeling everyone's angst and resistance...

And...

fed up with feeling pessimistic and negative...

"If you're experiencing a difficult time in life, you'll need to bolster your feelings of happiness before you can work on your challenges.

It might seem as if the reverse were true.

But by nourishing yourself with happiness first, you lay the groundwork to address your pain."
~ Thich Nhat Hanh

so - let's enjoy the sunshine and put a little love in our hearts:


Saturday, April 7, 2012

Critical Thinking 101...


...TO GET TO THE TRUTH OF THE MATTER:
 
the only question you ever have to ask, is who benefits from pushing a particular agenda, point of view, policy, action?

the only thing you ever have to observe is someone's actions - do they match their words?

and the final test is to see who people hang out/associate with...

in other words - follow the money, connect the dots....

when you figure that out, all the rest falls into place...

and there are always those who are not transparent about their real intentions/motivations/agendas and they get really pissy when they're caught out...